Let's start with some validation. This is a super hard time! Hands down, for sure the most challenging time our world has faced in my whole lifetime(36 years). It is hard for many reasons, and has created upsets in many situations, but if you are in wedding planning mode, this is undeniably a season of uncertainty.
Just the other day I mentioned to a bride that I feel as though we are in a grieving period. A time where we are trying so hard to come to terms with what normal used to be, and accepting what may be normal going forward for a while. There can be anger, frustration, uncertainty, even a feeling of being down in the dumps. This is normal! You are normal!
Who would have thought that you would have to keep your guest count to a certain number by law(for safety reasons)? Who would have guessed that at this time in 2020, you would not be able to freely book an event in a years time without wondering if the pandemic could once again put all your plans to a grinding halt? Who would have dreamed that serving food at your reception location could be a no no?
NONE OF US!
How on earth do you navigate through this?
I do not have all the answers, but I am happy to share some little suggestions that may bring you some clarity and direction.
1) Spend some time as a couple really focusing on what is important to you:
This will look different for every single couple. Even between you as individuals you may have different opinions. Start by making a list of things that in a perfect covid free world you would want for your wedding day.
This may include things that are super important and things that are just for fluff and fun. Keep going over your list, and having conversations about if you had to, what could be removed. Keep making new lists as you decide what is fluff and what truly means everything to you. At the end of the process you will have a really good idea of what as a couple, are the necessities around your day. REMEMBER; I used the word "removed", however what about planning a small intimate wedding and holding off on the big reception/party?
2) Decide if you are going to choose a date and set it in stone, or if it is just a temporary date:
Choosing your wedding date and setting it in stone may offer you a little more stability in an otherwise unstable situation. It will give you the ability to determine off of your lists from above, what you can plan/book no matter what the world looks like on that day. Here at Petals and Stems, after your date is secured with us, your flower order can change up to 4 weeks prior to your wedding date. If we sit down and plan your wedding day assuming there will be 30 tables to decorate, and it ends up there are only 30 guests allowed, there is nothing but understanding on this end. We will roll with what comes.
3) Check with Vendors/ Florist/Caters and learn about their cancellation/postponement policy:
This will bring you peace of mind. Do they mind a change of date, or will you be penalized? How much time in advance do they need if you are forced to postpone your date, or cancel the venue booking? If you eliminate these questions, it will help you rest knowing you have time, or that you don't have a thing to worry about. Taking things off of your stress list will be a huge relief. Petals and Stems has a no penalty policy, if you decide to postpone your wedding date, as long as we have not placed your floral order yet(about 4 weeks prior). We will not give you your deposit back(nonrefundable as per the contract), but are happy to work with you to find a new date that works for both of us at no extra charge and we will transfer your deposit to the new date.
4) A few options to consider:
-Go ahead no matter what with your wedding day. Only allowed 50 people(random number)? Plan to have your party when things loosen up.
-Keep it super simple and elope, having a small family party at someones home. Simple can be beautiful. This is becoming hugely popular.
-Indefinitely postpone your event until laws loosen. Hard to know when that may be, but if this floats your boat, its certainly an option.
I sure hope this has helped give you a few ideas and tips on how to plan in this troubled uncertain time. It is in no way easy, but if I can offer a little guidance, I am so happy too.
Please be in touch if you have further questions. I have not blogged for so so long, but I am excited to get back into the game, so watch for more tips and helpful info going forward.